On the Event of Having Been Married 4 Months
September 28, 2006
It’s true. We’ve survived our first fourth months of marriage. We’ve had our bumps, but mostly we still like each other and love is still there.
Having gotten this far, however, I know feel as though I know the secret ins and outs of marriage. That’s right, while you may think marriage may take years to fully explore and understand, I have a gift for you because I have figured it all out.
One big sleepover. That’s it. Marriage is like one big sleepover. Sometimes it is really exciting. When you can’t sleep, there’s someone there to talk to; when you’re bored, there’s someone there to play games with; when you’re hungry, there”s someone there to help you decide what to make; when something really exciting happens, there’s someone there to tell it too; when your throat is sore, there’s someone there to look down your throat and tell you there’s a three-eyed, green -clawed monster picking his nose and scrapping his boogers on your throat.
On the flip side, however, it does have its downsides (aside from the booger monster). Sometimes when you’re really tired, the person next to you can’t sleep and wants to talk. Sometimes when you’re sick and tired of people, the other person wants to play a game or tell you their deepest, darkest secrets. I cannot lie, sometimes it’s just exhausting to have someone else there ALL THE TIME.
But, overall, sleepovers are the most fun part about growing up, and now we get to have one every night. Who can complain?
So there you have it: the secret of marriage – one big sleepover!
Posted in marriage by Sarah Walker Cleaveland
Kevin I said:
September 29th, 2006 at 11:43 am
Congratulations on 4 months, my wife and I are at four months as well and I think your comparison to a sleepover makes a lot of sense.
Makeesha said:
September 29th, 2006 at 12:57 pm
hehe…that’s awesome. We’ve been married almost 8 years and I think I can say that the sleepover analogy still holds true. So well done, you figured it out
Except that when you add kids, it’s an even bigger sleepover with more elements added to the mix.
katie said:
September 29th, 2006 at 3:03 pm
congratulations on figuring it out so early in the game! kevin and i are only at 1 3/4 months, so you have saved us oodles of time and energy. i read your faith statement today, linked from adam’s blog in the post about the mean people, and i really like it. i hope all is well at cts – blessings on your semester so far. keep us posted if you uncover any more secrets, such as Why My Husband Leaves His Stinky Workout Clothes in Confined Spaces.
Chris M said:
September 29th, 2006 at 7:26 pm
Congrats on your first four months.
Thanks for posting the book list.
Oops, you forgot to mention about Adam heading out to get Popsicles when you have a sore throat.
DennisS said:
October 2nd, 2006 at 10:58 pm
Sleepover? Strange analogy to me. Married 18 years, three teenagers (all in high school this year and next) learning to drive and figuring out who they are, being a pastor now for 15 months (learning first hand about church problems and impossible pastoral expectations)…
Nope, sleepover doesn’t sound right at this stage. Maybe when the kids leave home and retirement affords us more time together…